That lady would be me, with the crying child named Maya. You see not everything is as nice as it seems with this little girl. She is going through one of those BIG stages, I don’t know which one but it is huge. She is very very cute and girly when she is in a good mood but if she doesn’t happen to get what she wants, something little as maybe the pair of socks she wanted to wear, she starts screaming for it and she wont stop, she will have a huge breakdown. We’ve tried almost everything, putting her to time out and all that, but we get tired before she does. We live in a small apartment and I start thinking about the neighbors more and more.
She’ll start screaming anywhere. Usually when we go pick up Adrian at school she is with me and when we start walking back to the car for no reason she’ll stop sometimes she starts to cry, I try to keep my calm and ask her what is it? What do you want? I get no answer, just more screaming, sometimes it seems she doesn’t want to walk anymore, but she wont let me pick her up or vice-versa so we go into the car and she will keep crying for a long time, sometimes she wont be calm until after we arrive home. That’s why I think other people might see me coming and think: There comes the lady with the screaming child…
We will keep trying other things but we are exhausted and the majority of times we end up giving in cause we don’t want her to scream and ruin the day or the night. This behavior is mostly with us, at daycare she is completely ok and they tell me she behaves really good!
Adrian loves her so much, anytime I threaten her that she wont come with us if she doesn’t behave, Adrian starts crying and tells me Noo Mami, I will miss her! Please let her come! I guess as a big brother he already has that protection sense with her, in a way it is good but he lets her get her way all the time. At this point I am also a referee with them trying to be fair to both.
It most be a girl thing or a second child thing asking for attention? I don’t know but I hope it changes soon, when Adrian was little he wasn’t like this, there is always something new to learn on this Mom profession! I’m sure I’m not the first mom that goes through this, have any tips for me? Please share!
– E S P A Ñ O L –
Ahí viene la señora con la niña llorona
Esa señora soy yo y la niña llorona es Maya. Como ven, no todo es color de rosa con Mayita. Está pasando por una etapa de esas fuertes, nose cuál pero es grande. Ella es la niñita más cuchi que hay cuando está de buen humor pero si algo pasa y no le dan lo que quiere, aunque sea algo chiquito de menor importancia como por ejemplo que no le pongo la media que quiere empieza a gritar y escalan los gritos, arma una pataleta como que si le hubiéramos pegado. hemos probado muchas cosas, la dejamos en el cuarto para que se calme, la tratamos de calmar, pero nosotros nos cansamos más rápido. Vivimos en un apartamento pequeño y ahora más que nunca me pongo a pensar en los pobres vecinos.
Ella empieza a gritar a donde sea, usualmente cuando voy a buscar a Adrian al colegio ella viene conmigo y ya cuando vamos de regreso al carro derepente se para y empieza a gritar por ninguna razón que me de cuenta, yo trato de mantenerme calmada y le pregunto que pasa hija? Que quieres? Pero no me contesta, sigue gritando más, algunas veces pareciera que es que no quiere caminar que quiere que la cargue pero no se deja cargar! Así que nos vamos al carro así y ella sigue llorando, muchas veces sigue llorando hasta mucho después de que llegamos a la casa. Por esos siempre pienso que la gente me verá venir por ahí y pensará: Ahí viene la señora con la niña que llorona…
Seguiremos intentando otras cosas pero por ahora estamos cansados y la mayoría de las veces la dejamos que haga lo que quiere antes de que se ponga a gritar y nos arruine el día o la noche. Se porta así con nosotros más que todo porque he preguntado en la guardería y me dicen que se porta super bien.
Adrian la quiere tanto, cada vez que Maya hace una pataleta y le digo que no va a venir con nosotros si no se porta bien Adri dice Nooo Mami, no la dejes, me va a hacer mucha falta! Tan bello, tiene como ese sentido de protección a su hermanita, se me infla el corazón cada vez que me dice algo así. Es bueno creo yo pero también se deja mucho hacer lo que Maya quiera por no enojarla y dejarla hacer lo que quiera. Usualmente estoy yo de réferi pentre los dos.
A lo mejor es algo que pasa con muchas niñas o es porque es la segunda y quiere más atención? Nosé pero espro que cambie muy pronto, cuando Adri estaba chiquito no fué así, la verdad es que siempre hay algo que aprender en esta profesión de ser Madre! Estoy segura que no soy la única que ha pasado por esto, tienes algún tip para mi? Comparte porfavor!
11 Comments
Helena
December 14, 2012 at 9:08 pmAy Chama! yo tengo uno y se la pasa llorando…conmigo nada mas…no se que decirte. Y que bello que el hermano la quiera tanto. Te mando un abrazo y mucha paciencia.
Dariela
December 14, 2012 at 9:24 pmGracias amiga, si necesito mucha paciencia!
Gilda
December 14, 2012 at 9:12 pmEsas rabietas ya las estoy pasando con mi hija. creo que saben cuando es el mejor momento para hacerlas. Me da una pena cuando se pone a hacerlas delante de la gente y lo peor es cuando la gente voltea a verte y no sabes ni donde meter la cabeza, pues las miradas son fulminantes!.
Dariela
December 14, 2012 at 9:25 pmAy Gilda! Si me da risa!! jajajaaja, verdad que si son fulminantes las miradas. Yo anets miraba así cuando no tenía hijos pero ahora ya se lo que se siente y se que a veces uno no puede evitar el escándalo!
Vero { This way Mami...}
December 14, 2012 at 9:41 pmConsejos? no tengo ninguno, mi hija hace lo mismo! Parece que las mujeres son asi, ahora que tengo un varoncito puedo comparar y hay mucho menos drama en El que en la hermana!
Dariela
December 19, 2012 at 6:45 amSi, las niñas somos una dramáticas vale!!!! Que broma 🙁
Vane Aguirre
December 18, 2012 at 9:04 pmI thought I was the only one con la niña llorona but I guess many of us are in the same position. Sometimes is hard to keep calm but patience is the key. I just hope this stage is over very soon 🙂
Dariela
December 19, 2012 at 6:46 amI'm so glad to hear that I'm not alone! Patience is hard to come these days isn't it? Hope it does end soon for both us!!
Ruby
December 21, 2012 at 12:09 amMy daughter stated throwing these "scream fests" i like to call them when she turned 3. She also got a crazy bossy attitude. She is my second born and usually the screaming happens when she doesn't get her way which is often but I think it's normal. It's good that you are asking her whats wrong. When my girl starts mumbling while crying I tell her you know I can't hear you because you are crying and I want to help you but you need to use your words. That seems to do the trick. I hope things work out!
Chris Eastvedt
August 8, 2013 at 7:47 pmI'm sympathetic, really I am, but I'm usually the person you see crossing the street to get away from the crying child. Sorry, but I know that at that stage the problem really isn't about you, it's about her. Giving in, though tempting, only encourages more outbursts. All you can do is wait it out. If she does it at a restaurant, take her outside. If it happens in the grocery store, take her to the car. Eventually, when's she's calmed down, maybe she'll talk about what's bothering her and you can help her cope with her feelings (deep breaths, counting to ten…). But trying to have a productive conversation with a child in the throws of an emotional outburst is just insanity.
Dariela
August 9, 2013 at 5:04 amIt's true, it doesn't help. Ugh but when we are out it's just crazy to wait for her to calm down, we can stay in the car forever and she will keep crying. But yes, you are right, it;s just harder to do when we are out and about…